Monday, November 24, 2014

No Indictment=No Justice=No Love For The DNA From Which All Humanity Came

In a society where not all people are held to the same letter of the law, it hurts my soul. If I killed someone I would be in jail until they figured things out. I would go to trial. As an everyday citizen, I do not have the same rights as police enforcement. As a person of African descent I do not have the same rights, peace of mind, and opportunity as my white counterparts.
Every person who kills another should be handled in the same way and this is a great example of the luxury Darren Wilson was given. If it was a black man there is no way he would have been allowed to chill at home and get married while waiting for murder charges to be handed down.
As much as I wanted things to turn out in our favor, I know our history and I know that the sad fact is that the system is not set up to give us equality. It’s hard to believe in a justice system that rarely if ever gives justice to black people. The deep seeded hatred of whites towards blacks is an oddity that sometimes makes me think is it something demonic and genetic. We are always expected to be peaceful, turn the other cheek, and believe in humanity… when humanity has turned against us.
I fear for my nephews, I fear for my brother, I fear for the man I love in a society where black men are vilified, ignored, and murdered in cold blood and there is no recourse. An oppressed population can only stay peaceful for so long.


No Indictment=No Justice=No Love For The DNA From Which All Humanity Came

Mike Brown's living was not in vain. He is a catalyst for change.

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Is It Possible to Find a Black Man Over 30 With No Kids?

I just feel it's really unfair. I have been responsible and not got knocked up. Why is it so hard to find a black man with no kids? The guys I do find with "no kids" are running away from commitment and playing games.

I'm rather apprehensive about having to be motherly towards someone's child. Chime in, what has been your experience with dating men with a child or two?

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Tonight's Lesson: Belief vs. Trust

Tonight I was told that he believed in me, but didn't trust me. It shook me. Sucker punch to my emotions. Then I had to really research what belief was and what trust was. Found this beautiful poem that really illustrated the difference for me. I guess I don't trust him yet either.

Belief is Doubtful, Trust is Certain
Belief is from Mind, Trust is from Heart
Belief is Lip Service; Trust is Heart Felt
Believe many; Trust only a Few
Believing is Easy, Trusting is Hard
Belief scores 50%, Trust scores 100%
Belief is Ordinary; Trust is Extra-ordinary
Belief is Start point; Trust is End Point
Belief is Limited; Trust is infinite
Belief is Shaking Hands, Trust is Embracing
Belief keeps Control; Trust gives up control
Belief is jumping opportunities; Trust is staying
Belief is not Time Tested; Trust passes Tough Times
Belief is Partial; Trust is Complete
Believe in Thoughts; Trust your Intuition
Belief in God is Attempting; Trust in God is Surrender
Belief is Important; Trust is Essential
Belief is Plastic Rose; Trust is Real Rose

(23-June-2010, Chennai) 
http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/0978-belief-vs-trust/

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

What is Reproductive Health to Black Women on the Generation X-Generation Y Cusp?

Black women born between 1975 and 1982 represent a special niche in the 18 to 49 coveted age group. They are stuck in between two eras; a time of black power and unity and a time of me, me, me and a feeling of entitlement.

As a black woman on the Generation X-Generation Y Cusp, the first thing that comes to mind when I think of Reproductive Health is Freedom. Freedom to choose. Freedom to abort. Freedom to give birth. Freedom to say yes. Freedom to say no. Freedom to be the master of my own body without a man, white man, or slew of politicians who do not know me or my situation to dictate what I can do with my body. 

That Freedom allows me to have children when I am ready. I cringe when I think of the millions of women who came before me and the millions who shall come after me who could not (for whatever reason) control when they had children. In this sexist society a woman is made to sacrifice her dreams and aspirations while the man can skip out and follow his dreams and society doesn’t even bat an eye. When women do the same they are seen as a monster.  Women lack the freedom and societal acceptance of their male counterparts.


Freedom, an inalienable right that has been kept from generations of women.  A right that is still at risk in the 21st century.

If you are a black woman on the Generation X-Generation Y Cusp, what is reproductive freedom to you?